Menopause & Feeling Better Quick
posted: Dec. 31, 1969.
We all have heard the saying “you are what you eat”. When it comes to your experience of life as you move into menopause, the saying should go, “you are what you think.” Many people have learned that replacing negative thoughts with positive ones can help them feel better right away. When it comes to our beliefs about menopause, I can’t think of a better time to start actually practicing this timeless cognitive behavioral therapy strategy.
Take out pen and paper. Draw a single line down the middle of the page. On top of the left column, put a negative symbol. And on top of the right, put a positive symbol. Now, take that paper and sit at a table by yourself, grab a cup of your favorite coffee or tea, and gather yourself in 2 minutes of silence. For me this means taking 3 deep breaths with my eyes closed.
Then start writing. In the left column, write down your biggest fear of what it means to go through menopause. Under it, write what negative changes will happen with menopause, first to your body in general, then to your mind, then to your appearance, your relationships, your sleep patterns etc. etc. You get the picture…
In the right column, next to each fear, write a positive fact about your present life. It could be as simple as being grateful you have your favorite coffee or tea to drink right now or you have been blessed with a break in your day to be able to to do this exercise. Maybe you had 1 less migraine headache this week compared to last week or being grateful you have lived long enough to go through menopause! It can be anything. I know for myself, once I start writing, I feel better that the whirlwind of thoughts have been organized and placed on a sheet of paper in front of me. I have taken the time to process what is happening and to begin acknowledging the changes that are happening to me, both good and the not so good.
Lisa Youngblood, MSN, APRN, PMHNP-BC is a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner & Family Nurse Practitioner practicing in private practice in Florida. She sees adults of all ages online on a confidential video platform.